Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Monday, 24 June 2013

It Is Not Good For Man To Be Alone

by Joel Hawting | @jhawting


It is not good for man to be alone. A long time ago in the garden God realised this and brought Eve into the world from the flesh of Adam. Genesis 2:18 reads:

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

God provided for Adam a companion. A lover. Someone to 'do' life with. Someone to be united with. God created the first woman in the history of the world as he saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone.

I've seen this passage of scripture in a new light recently. You see, my wife has been away on a remote work trip for the last week or so. She has been on a trip to some remote parts of central Australia in the Northern Territory, and was so remote at times that she did not have internet or phone reception. We have only been apart for a bit over a week so far - and we will only be apart for nine days total - but I'm feeling lonely. I'm missing my wife; I've realised for myself how it is not good for man to be alone.

God has made the institution of marriage for this very purpose. Two become one flesh and live to love, nurture and honour one another, developing an earthly relationship that reflects the heavenly relationship that the members of the Godhead experience. To live together in intimate relationship. To practice unconditional love and acceptance. To rely on and trust in one another. To spend time enjoying and experiencing life together.

God realised that it wasn't good for man to be alone and God brought into existence the perfect partner for Adam back in the days of Genesis. After this time apart, I am eagerly anticipating God returning my perfect partner to me tomorrow afternoon. Just like Adam, I've had enough of being alone. Just like Adam, I've realised that it's not good for man to be alone.

Tuesday, 28 May 2013

Weekly Wrap (26/05)

by Joel Hawting | @jhawting



Meet Zach Sobiech: The story of a man who was diagnosed with cancer and given only a few months to live. This video shows what he did with his remaining time on earth.

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Australia's Boom is Anything But for its Aboriginal People - Not a faith-based article but one which resonates with my heart for justice for all people. A great article highlighting the disparity in experiences between Aboriginal and Non-aboriginal Australians.

Wycliffe Bible Translations for Muslims - "Bible translations that avoid the phrase "Son of God" have proven successful among Muslims. But dismay by some missionaries and scholars recently led at least two denominations—including the three-million-member Assemblies of God—to threaten boycotts of Wycliffe Bible Translators unless it ended the practice." A interesting Gleaning from Christianity Today on this contentious issue.

Why Some Preachers Get Better & Others Don't - "No one denies that a preaching class and some coaching can help anyone become better. What we question is the possibility that someone with no natural giftedness and ability can be taught well enough that he can become really good." Hershael York offers some interesting reflections on the art of teaching people to preach.

Why Do Rookie Pastors Get Fired? - "I have a simple two letter answer. EQ. Or rather, the lack of it." A good, thought-provoking article.

Is Ministry Ruining Your Marriage? - "So, how do you keep church conflict from impacting your home life? The short answer is, you can’t. If you’re in church leadership, serious church conflict will, in various ways, impact your family life." An interesting article highlighting the importance of boundaries in cultivating a strong and healthy marriage.
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Thought for the day...

"Don't obey God to get things. Obey God to get God. He is your shield and your very great reward."
— Mike Pilavachi

Tuesday, 26 March 2013

Rob Bell & The Slippery Slope of Compromise

by Joel Hawting | @jhawting



Last week I briefly touched on the latest news about Rob Bell in my blog post available hereRob Bell has voiced his clear support for Same-Sex Marriage and has caused quite a stir throughout the Christian and secular media. Rob stated his view in this way (Note: This is his direct response when asked about his views on Same-Sex Marriage):


"I am for marriage. I am for fidelity. I am for love, whether it's a man and woman, a woman and a woman, a man and a man. I think the ship has sailed and I think the church needs -- I think this is the world we are living in and we need to affirm people wherever they are."


What should we think about Rob's latest statement? I think we shouldn't be surprised. Ed Stetzer summed it up well with his tweet:

You see, anyone who has observed the way that Rob Bell has been going for a while could see this coming. Rob Bell wrote a book called Love Wins which questioned the existence of Hell - a basic doctrinal belief held to by the early church fathers and Christians throughout the ages. In undermining this doctrinal belief, Rob effectively walked away from Biblical Christianity - Rob started to walk along the path of compromise, choosing to promote a culturally relevant and 'trendy' gospel instead of one deeply rooted in biblical truth.

And that's the thing with compromise - compromise usually leads to further compromise. It becomes a snowball effect. What was once a theological absolute becomes questionable. Spiritual truths are thrown out the window in the hope of tailoring the Christian message to better reach the lost.

Martin Luther addressed such an approach in his sermon "Knowledge of God’s Will and Its Fruit":

"The world at the present time is sagaciously discussing how to quell the controversy and strife over doctrine and faith, and how to effect a compromise between the Church and the Papacy. Let the learned, the wise, it is said, bishops, emperor and princes, arbitrate. Each side can easily yield something, and it is better to concede some things which can be construed according to individual interpretation, than that so much persecution, bloodshed, war, and terrible, endless dissension and destruction be permitted.


Here is lack of understanding, for understanding proves by the Word that such patchwork is not according to God’s will, but that doctrine, faith and worship must be preserved pure and unadulterated; there must be no mingling with human nonsense, human opinions or wisdom.


The Scriptures give us this rule: “We must obey God rather than men” (Acts 5:29)."



We need to obey God and follow what He says on every matter, taking seriously His Word and its teachings - just like Martin Luther did when he nailed his ninety-five theses to the door of the chapel all those years ago. It is not okay to compromise biblical truth because of our own human opinion on any given issue. In the end, God is the only one who is wise, the only one who truly has a handle on each and every issue. We might think we have a great idea, a progressive way to think about the world in which we live, a new revelation in understanding the scriptures. But the bible is clear on such thinking. 1 Corinthians 3:19 says:


"For the wisdom of this world is foolishness in God's sight."



We - as Christian thinkers - need to be careful as we think. It's fine to wrestle, challenge and struggle through the scriptures as we come to a greater understanding of scripture and in turn, our loving Saviour Jesus Christ - I love this process and do it on a daily basis. However it is not fine to pick and chose from the scriptures, accepting and promoting the bits about love and grace and neglecting the less palatable parts about sin and judgement. That is compromised truth. As John MacArthur says:


"Compromised truth has no hope of rescuing the eternal souls of men and women." 


That is what is at stake here: the eternal souls of men and women. Our family members, our friends and our neighbours - those we love and treasure. That is why Rob Bell's stance is deeply concerning. That is why there has been such coverage in both secular and Christian media.

I'm reminded as I finish of what Timothy wrote concerning such teaching in his book 2 Timothy in chapter 4 verses 3 & 4:


"For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths."


I pray that Rob Bell is not going to continue on this path of undermining biblical truth. After all, whilst he doesn't pastor a church any more he does 'pastor' hundreds of thousands of people through his Nooma DVD series, through his own books, blog posts and newspaper articles. He has influence. His words have weight. He is leading people whether he likes to admit it or not, and he needs to take that responsibility seriously. The bible is very clear in warning people in leadership and teaching positions about the dangers of leading people astray. I'm praying for you Rob and I hope that others will be too.

Thursday, 13 December 2012

Husbands, Lead Your Wives!

by Joel Hawting | @jhawting


Leading our wives is not something that necessarily always comes naturally to us as men. I mean, sure we can enjoy times with our wives, take them out to dinner, buy them nice presents, but lead them? Spiritually? What on earth am I meant to do there!?!

Well fear not men, it is not all that bad - there are simply, practical things that we can do to spiritually lead our wives well. This is a topic that I have been researching lately myself, and I thought that I would share some good websites that I have come across on my personal quest (they are not listed in any particular order).

I hope they are as helpful for you as they were for me!

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Covenant KeepersHow does a husband lead his wife and family?

One Flesh Marriage - Men's Guide to Spiritually Lead Your Wife & Family

Love Your Wife - Husbands, Love Your Wife, Just as Christ Loved the Church

Family Life - Walking With God in Your Marriage

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What about you? Have you got any advice in providing spiritual leadership for your wife and/or family?